I recently lost a friend who had been in poor health for quite a while—a delightful lady who made me smile. This week (May 19-26) is National New Friends, Old Friends Week, a time set aside to remember how vital friends are to our emotional and physical health and well-being. Celebrating friends of any and all kinds seems an appropriate way to honor my friend, especially in the form of books, because she loved them and our library so.
The month of May, a time when we strive to bring awareness to our mental health, furthers the theme of the connection between friendship and health. At one time or another, most of us are in need of some kind of special care with life’s challenges and illnesses. Whether we are suffering from the effects of (in no particular order) grief, a broken heart, stress, anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, addiction, autism, ADHD, OCD, schizophrenia, etc., we need, at the very least, some kind of guidance and kindness to get us through. Though we need to be aware that professional help may be required, the concern of a friend or a friendly stranger, or just a sincere smile on a face can often make all the difference.
Visit us, your friends at Smiley Public Library, if you need to locate resources for help, including finding some helpful books in the area of concern, even it’s just to hear another’s story. Here is a small sampling from our new book collection.
“The Best Minds: A Story of Friendship, Madness, and the Tragedy of Good Intentions” is a dramatic, yet unfortunately, an increasingly common version, of how mental illness can spill over from the sufferer to those around him. The memoir, a Pulitzer Prize finalist of 2023, recounts author Jonathan Rosen’s investigation of the forces that led his closest childhood friend from success and great potential to the psychiatric hospital where he has lived since killing the woman he loved. A story about friendship, love, and the price of self-delusion, The Best Minds explores the ways in which we understand–and fail to understand–mental illness.
On a lighter note, another memoir, “I’ll Just Be Five More Minutes: (and Other Tales from My ADHD Brain),” is a collection of heartwarming and humorous essays by Emily Farris. Using her own experience as a woman diagnosed with ADHD at age 35, she addresses the topic of neurodivergent thought processing and the emerging discovery of its previously undiagnosed effects on girls/women. At its core, Farris’s account is about not quite fitting in and not really understanding why–something we’ve all felt whether we’re neurodivergent or not.
“Stand By Me: A Guide to Navigating Modern, Meaningful Caregiving” focuses on the very special friends we find in unpaid, untrained, usually family, caregivers. Author and clinical psychologist Dr. Allison Applebaum is the founder of the only devoted Caregivers Clinic in the country, as well as someone who has been on a personal journey as the primary caregiver for her own father, composer Stanley Applebaum. With this volume, she empowers caregivers to provide their loved one with the best quality of life and care possible, while promoting their own well-being.
Ultimately, in whatever we’re going through, we usually have to get to know ourselves better in order to begin healing. You may remember Julia Cameron’s 1992 classic “The Artist’s Way,” designed to provide tools to access artistic creative recovery. This year Cameron has released a supplement, “Living the Artist’s Way: An Intuitive Path to Greater Creativity: A Six-Week Artist’s Way Program.” In it she shares an additional technique, ‘writing for guidance,’ as a way to connect with the intuitive power within ourselves and trusting the answers we receive. Cameron details how writing for guidance can help readers quell anxiety, “slow down” amid life’s stressors, and surrender control. As if to bring our discussion full circle, she describes how she and other artists use the tool in practice by grounding her meditative guide with chapters “Believing Friends” and “The Inspiration of Friends.”